Episodes
Wednesday Sep 13, 2023
Episode 61: Reframing and Reclaiming our Bodies: Hilary Kinavey and Dana Sturtevant
Wednesday Sep 13, 2023
Wednesday Sep 13, 2023
We have been given a script on how to feel about our bodies. It limits who we are and the depth of life that we can experience. Kara talks with Hilary Kinavey and Dana Sturtevant the Co-Founders and Co-Owners of the Center for Body Trust and the authors of the book Reclaiming Body Trust. Together they remember stories they were told and how they were made to feel about their bodies and the deconstruction they are going through to change the relationship they have with their bodies. Too many fem bodies and now masculine bodies are feeling like they are never enough. It’s time to change that.
In 2005, Hilary and Dana founded the Center for Body Trust to offer programs that encourage movement toward a compassionate, weight-inclusive model of radical care to address body oppression, heal body shame and associated patterns of chronic dieting and disordered eating. The Center for Body Trust also offers programs for helping professionals and educators interested in adopting client-centered, trauma-informed, justice-based approaches to healing—including an intensive year-long Body Trust Certification Training. Their work has been featured in The New York Times, Scientific American, Health, Self, Real Simple, Huffington Post, and the TEDx stage, and their book Reclaiming Body Trust: A Path to Healing and Liberation was released in 2023.
Hilary Kinavey, MS, LPC (she/her) has supported people who are healing from disordered eating, body shame, and the impact of weight bias and other traumas. Hilary’s work as a therapist, educator, speaker, and writer, has been a study of what interrupts our sense of wholeness and how we can return to ourselves in a culture that profits from fragmentation. She has additional training in workshop facilitation, mind-body coaching, and radical relating. She is a sought-after speaker on topics such as weight-inclusive approaches, weight bias, and the intersections of activism and the helping professions. She offers consultation and training for organizations and professionals.
Dana Sturtevant, MS, RD (she/her), is a registered dietitian who helps people divest from diet culture and move toward more compassionate, embodied forms of radical care. Her work as a speaker, educator, and trainer focuses on humanizing health care, advancing health equity, and advocating for food and body sovereignty. As a sought-after speaker and writer, Dana is a champion for compassionate, weight-inclusive models of care and offers supervision, training, and consultation for helping professionals and health care organizations.
Learn more about Hilary and Dana and their work at:
www.centerforbodytrust.com
facebook.com/CenterForBodyTrust
instagram.com/Center for Body Trust
twitter.com/bodytrustcenter
Tuesday Jul 04, 2023
Episode 60: Season 3 Finale - Kara & Jenny Review and Look Forward
Tuesday Jul 04, 2023
Tuesday Jul 04, 2023
In their Season 3 Finale, Kara and Jenny talk about what they are reframing from the last year, where they have grieved and what is bringing them joy. They talk about parenting post pandemic, the influence of our parents, reminders of expectations placed upon them and how that impacts how they parent. They look forward to next season, talk about upcoming shows and discuss a new educational series just released, REFRAMING: Youth Groups & Healthy Relationships.
Learn More and Follow:
- Email: info@reframingourstories.com
- Website: www.reframingourstories.com
- New Educational Series: REFRAMING: Youth Groups & Healthy Relationships
- Facebook: www.facebook.com/reframingourstories
- Instagram: www.instagram.com/reframingourstories
- Linkedin: www.linkedin.com/company/reframingourstories
Tuesday Jun 27, 2023
Episode 59: The Stories of Justice and Inclusivity: Darren Calhoun
Tuesday Jun 27, 2023
Tuesday Jun 27, 2023
There are many subjects that Kara and Darren discuss in this podcast, they definitely go where the conversation wants to flow, including the bidet. Somehow, the story of the bidet leads us into the topic of lacking. What does it mean to lack in something and what do we lose when we turn away from ourselves? Darren and Kara also talk about: race, HIV, embodiment and affirming spaces in ministry, and his band - The Many.
Darren Calhoun is a justice advocate, worship leader, and photographer based out of Chicago. He works to bridge connections between people of differing perspectives through story and relationship. Intersectionality is his primary lens when facilitating dialogue and education about justice and inclusion for people marginalized based on race, gender, and/or sexuality.
Darren Calhoun is currently the Worship Leader at Urban Village Church – South Loop and previously served as a volunteer worship leader at Willow Chicago for close to a decade. Darren is an Associate Fellow with Evangelicals for Social Action and sings with a band called The Many. He co-lead the #ImSorry and #MakeLoveLouder campaigns at Chicago’s LGBTQ Pride parades. He’s been a speaker and performer at notable events like the Gay Christian Network conference, The Wild Goose Festival, and Sojourner’s Summit for Change. He serves on the board of directors for the Center for Inclusivity, The Reformation Project, and Q Christian Fellowship.
He brings with him an intentional focus on the church being inclusive of a diversity of people and expressions as an authentic reflection of the Love of God. Lastly, Darren is an extrovert who loves hugs.
Follow him on social media at @heyDarren or through his blog, DarrenCalhoun.com.
Wednesday Jun 14, 2023
Episode 58: A Comprehensive Look at Orientation: Aubri Lancaster
Wednesday Jun 14, 2023
Wednesday Jun 14, 2023
In all her education in sexual health, Kara has never heard orientation explained or broken down the way that Aubri Lancaster did when talking about asexuality and aromanticism. Aubri challenged Kara to think more deeply about how orientation is taught and expressed to illustrate that we are leaving out important details and many layers. They look at those layers with more intention. If you like philosophy and the study of human sexuality, then this episode is for you.
Aubri Lancaster (she/her) is an AASECT and ANTE UP! Certified Sexuality Educator. As a Greyromantic Asexual, Aubri has lived experience and a connection to the Asexual and Aromantic communities that provides a unique perspective on the issues facing the changing landscape of sexuality and orientation. When not working, Aubri spends her time with her spouse, her friends, her 6 year old, and her two adorable Chihuahuas.
Learn more about Aubri:
www.MyPassionAngel.com
IG and TikTok: @AceSexEducation
Tuesday May 30, 2023
Episode 57: Enjoying my Own Company with Sobriety: Anthony Eder
Tuesday May 30, 2023
Tuesday May 30, 2023
Recognizing that sobriety is the step you need to take to get back to you is one that takes courage. Kara talks with her friend Anthony Eder about his journey living into sobriety. On the path to becoming sober, Anthony learned how to enjoy his own company with the connection to others who are also queer and choose sobriety. It’s in this space where Anthony learns how to love himself and find joy while also understanding boundaries and maintaining them. Kara and Anthony cover a lot of ground in this episode from topics around neurodiversity, healthy relationships, negative self talk, politics, and more.
Anthony is someone who is not afraid to share the struggles he has gone through in hopes that it supports another. After spending several years in Southern California working at a youth camp full time, Anthony is back in the Midwest. He is living life with intention, hope, and curiosity. He is passionate about mental health care, advocating for our voice & purpose, and creating a dance party anywhere we go. He believes sobriety is a path of self love and self discovery. Anthony is a Certified Peer Support Specialist for folks in recovery and struggling with their mental health. He will also soon be certified as an Enneagram Practitioner with The Art of Growth.
Anthony finds joy in knitting, music, laughing, road trips, and connecting with people on a deep level. He is always searching for new music, so send him ALL your suggestions!
Website: www.theluckiestclub.com
Instagram: instagram.com/mwendo.sou
Podcast Notes: The song we referred to in this podcast was Drawn to the Rhythm by Sarah McLachlan
Tuesday May 16, 2023
Episode 56: Rewriting our Story with Dignity: Shereese Floyd
Tuesday May 16, 2023
Tuesday May 16, 2023
In this episode, Kara talks with Shereese Floyd about how past trauma can leave us stuck in a character and not know who we are. Shereese escaped from an abusive relationship and changed her story, and is now helping others to do the same. Part of being human is learning from the stories of others, listening and seeing the dignity each person holds through stories - even when they hold differences to ours.
Shereese is a storytelling strategist and healing advocate who helps women remember what they are capable of by reminding them of what they have already done. Shereese also works with abuse survivors by helping them reclaim their voices so that they are impossible to ignore.
She’s the owner of Witness My Life and author of Become the Greatest Story Ever Told: Making a Memoir, a storytelling journal that provides a simple DIY-style memoir process to help readers get their story out of their heads and into the world where it can make a difference. As a former prisoner’s wife and survivor of narcissistic abuse. Shereese uses her hard-fought lessons to help others be seen and heard through journeying through their life experiences — all while turning the worst days into the best days of their lives.
Shereese is an advocate for social change and believes story is the one thing that truly brings the world together. As a TEDx speaker and coach, she helps aspiring speakers craft signature messages that impact the world. Her TEDx: The Secret to Healing the World was awarded a Cicero Speechwriting Award.
Shereese is a contributor to CEO World and Entrepreneur Magazine. Her work has been featured or quoted in Blavity, YFS Magazine, Forbes, The Huffington Post, Inside Business, CoVABIZ, and Coastal Virginia Magazine.
Learn more about Shereese:
www.witnessmylife.org
Tuesday May 02, 2023
Episode 55: The Importance of Boundaries: Hailey Magee
Tuesday May 02, 2023
Tuesday May 02, 2023
If you’re a people pleaser trying to establish boundaries, this podcast is for you! Kara and Hailey Magee are self identified, recovering people pleasers. In this episode, they talk about the many layers behind establishing boundaries and the feelings that come with it. Listen in as Hailey and Kara vibe off each other’s insights and make new discoveries of their own. Boundaries are important in creating and supporting healthy relationships and the most important boundaries are the ones you have with yourself. It is in the process of discovering our self-worth that we help ourselves identify and set these boundaries.
Hailey is a certified coach, educator, and writer who helps individuals worldwide set empowered boundaries and break the people-pleasing pattern. Certified by Erickson Coaching International, she has worked one-on-one with over 200 clients and her virtual workshops have welcomed thousands of participants from the United States, South Africa, France, Yemen, and beyond. Hailey has written for Newsweek, The Gottman Institute Blog and Medium’s Better Humans, and has facilitated group coaching sessions in partnership with WeWork, Amazon, Women In Music, and a variety of other companies and organizations. She received her BA from Brandeis University in Massachusetts and currently resides in Seattle, WA.
Learn more about Hailey:
www.haileymagee.com
www.instagram.com/haileypaigemagee
Tuesday Apr 18, 2023
Episode 54: Raising Kids Beyond the Binary: Jamie Bruesehoff
Tuesday Apr 18, 2023
Tuesday Apr 18, 2023
As parents, we want the best for our children and want to see them thrive. Our hope is to provide them with protection, care, and a world where they don’t feel threatened. In this episode, Jamie explains what it is like to parent a child who is trans. We all want the same thing for our children, let’s make it easy for us to provide that for all children and families.
Kara and Jamie spend time talking about the boxes we create for ourselves that don’t allow us to live into our authenticity and how when we allow one another to live into their own authenticity, it is better for everyone.
Jamie Bruesehoff (she/they) is a nationally known speaker, award-winning LGBTQ+ advocate, and a heartfelt writer. Rooted in her queer identity, her experiences raising a transgender child, and two decades of experience working with youth in and outside of the church, Jamie equips leaders to create safer, more inclusive spaces for LGBTQIA people of all ages. Her family and their work have been featured by media outlets and organizations around the world, including Disney, NPR, Good Morning America, USA Today, Forbes, Marvel, People, Parents, and the Human Rights Campaign. Jamie holds an M.A. in Religion from the Lutheran Theological Seminary at Gettysburg. She lives in New Jersey with her spouse and children.
Jamie's upcoming book, Raising Kids Beyond the Binary: Celebrating God’s Transgender and Gender-Diverse Children, is available for pre-order wherever books are sold.
Learn more about Jamie:
jamiebruesehoff.com
instagram.com/jamiebruesehoff
facebook.com/jamiebruesehoff
twitter.com/jamiebruesehoff
Tuesday Mar 28, 2023
Episode 53: Tech and Relationships: Kate Ott
Tuesday Mar 28, 2023
Tuesday Mar 28, 2023
Technology continues to be a tool we use to enhance our life and relationships. As parents, there is definitely a love/hate relationship that develops with tech as it can do wonderful things and yet cause harm. In this episode, Kara talks with Kate Ott on how to look at tech in an ethical way and its relationship to sex.
Dr. Kate Ott is a feminist, Christian social ethicist addressing the formation of moral communities with specializations in technology, sexuality, youth and young adults, pedagogy, and professional ethics. She is the Jerre L. and Mary Joy Stead Professor of Christian Social Ethics at Garrett-Evangelical Theological Seminary in Evanston, Il, where she serves as the Director of the Stead Center on Ethics and Values.
She is the author of Sex + Faith: Talking with Your Child from Birth to Adolescence and her new book, Sex, Tech, and Faith: Christian Ethics in a Digital Age. In her new book she gets to the heart of the matter of how we humans interact in an artificial space as sexual beings. What are the consequences of this, and where are the tangible positives?
Learn more about Kate at: www.kateott.org
Tuesday Mar 14, 2023
Episode 52: Finding Freedom in Kink: Sean Orpen
Tuesday Mar 14, 2023
Tuesday Mar 14, 2023
The world of kink is big and often gets a bad rap, especially among religious communities. However, there is a lot more to kink that can help us open our world to a deeper understanding of ourselves. It’s within kink where we are often given permission to explore the depths of ourselves and to be fully present in intimate experiences. Sean Orpen is an AASECT certified sex therapist who co-owns his own sex therapy collective in Seattle, WA and works primarily with those who identify as kinky. In this episode, Kara and Sean explore the way kink can lead to embodiment and open new pathways to ourselves.
Sean Orpen is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), a Marriage and Family Therapist Supervisor (LMFT-S), an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST), and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor (CST-S) in Seattle, WA. He finds meaning in helping people navigate their way to pleasure, find their voice, share their values, and communicate desire with others through a sense of empowerment. Bodies are meant to be enjoyed and pleasure sought out. He finds meaning in seeing others becoming powerful in their lives!
Learn more about Sean at www.pnwsextherapycollective.com